I also try to remind myself just how long my kids have been on the earth. If I'm still struggling to figure out this life at 35, what makes me think they know all the rules at almost 4 and 7 1/2? I don't always remember these things but this is certainly part of the parenting ideal I strive for. While there are some things that just need to happen "because I say so" there are tons of things that don't need to happen that way. Just because I'm bigger than my kids doesn't make me any more special than them.

FWIW, I think you and Crystal are great parents. You obviously adore Molly and it shows in all you do for her. No matter what your mom says. ;-)