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spikesgirl58 here on LiverJournal, and she does something just *astounding* on a fairly regular basis that I'll refer to as a "Just Wondering" post. More about that in a minute...
Social Media seems to be less and less "Social" with every passing year - When I repost a funny quote I saw on the internet and you "like" it, that's not a social interaction. That's both of us acknowledging a thing. Even if you take the time to write a response of "LOL" or even a simple emoji, that's not a social interaction.
You coming here to read this thing I wrote where i complain about Social Media, THAT'S not Social Interaction either - that's about as social as reading a book - even if you take the time to point out all my spelling and grammatical errors.
For the most part, THE BEST interactions you can really hope for on Social Media would be a series of short statements where you take turns telling each other that you're wrong and attempt to correct each other and fail. Observers choose sides and jump into the "conversation" attempting to vilify the other side till people give up. There is no compromise, there is no debate, just a series of attacks till somebody stops typing.
But withspikesgirl58 and her Just Wondering posts, she's inviting a social interaction that is truly uplifting and fun, where you actually learn something about people AND lets you be a star!
THREE QUESTIONS. Not loaded question, not trivia, not invitations to conflict. Just questions about your life that may inspire you to respond with your own anecdotes, which she then (usually) follows up with more questions because she seems to be legitimately interested in what you've done :)
Everyone likes to be important and listened to, and this type of post does just that :)
I gotta tell ya, it was SO MUCH BETTER to wake up to a "That's fascinating, please tell me more" message than to a "You're wrong and here's why you're wrong" message :)
So yeah, a bit later today, I'm going to start making a "Just Wondering" post and see where it goes :)
spikesgirl58 here on LiverJournal, and she does something just *astounding* on a fairly regular basis that I'll refer to as a "Just Wondering" post. More about that in a minute...Social Media seems to be less and less "Social" with every passing year - When I repost a funny quote I saw on the internet and you "like" it, that's not a social interaction. That's both of us acknowledging a thing. Even if you take the time to write a response of "LOL" or even a simple emoji, that's not a social interaction.
You coming here to read this thing I wrote where i complain about Social Media, THAT'S not Social Interaction either - that's about as social as reading a book - even if you take the time to point out all my spelling and grammatical errors.
For the most part, THE BEST interactions you can really hope for on Social Media would be a series of short statements where you take turns telling each other that you're wrong and attempt to correct each other and fail. Observers choose sides and jump into the "conversation" attempting to vilify the other side till people give up. There is no compromise, there is no debate, just a series of attacks till somebody stops typing.
But with
spikesgirl58 and her Just Wondering posts, she's inviting a social interaction that is truly uplifting and fun, where you actually learn something about people AND lets you be a star!THREE QUESTIONS. Not loaded question, not trivia, not invitations to conflict. Just questions about your life that may inspire you to respond with your own anecdotes, which she then (usually) follows up with more questions because she seems to be legitimately interested in what you've done :)
Everyone likes to be important and listened to, and this type of post does just that :)
I gotta tell ya, it was SO MUCH BETTER to wake up to a "That's fascinating, please tell me more" message than to a "You're wrong and here's why you're wrong" message :)
So yeah, a bit later today, I'm going to start making a "Just Wondering" post and see where it goes :)
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Date: 2016-08-22 06:25 pm (UTC)I hope this works for you. I just love finding out more about people and their lives without passing any judgment or pressuring people. Thank you for your kind words.
And, Rock On!
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Date: 2016-08-22 06:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-08-22 07:34 pm (UTC)LiveJournal was the first Social Media I ever encountered, back before that was what it was called. I'm not sure how long you've been with LJ, but back in the heyday it was overflowing with active communities where you got to discover new people with similar interests, add them to your personal friends list... I've made a lot of great irl friends through this site! Oh sure, these days it's more like a shopping mall - once a social and economic hub, now just a collection of empty storefronts and a Radio Shack - but back then it was THRIVING!
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Date: 2016-08-22 07:41 pm (UTC)BUT clearly, it's a perception that maybe is mine alone! I'm cool with that. I participate in Twitter but do not go near Facebook so maybe my perceptions are way off base anyway.