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it really started on Sunday, when Molly suddenly just started telling me to go away because she doesn't like me.
Culminated in yesterday's "I want to KILL him" comments.
...And is continuing today with a morning full of her pushing me away and telling me she doesn't like me and she wants me to just go away. She doesn't like me, she likes MOMMY.
So what the hell do I do? I have a feeling that this is one of those early developmental moments that will define our relationship for the rest of her life.
Do I punish her for being rude and hurtful, making her hate me even more and setting myself as the villain/warden for the rest of her life that she has to fear and/or conspire against?
Do I over-compensate and do everything I can to make her say she loves me, setting the precedent of "All I have to do is tell Daddy that i hate him and he'll buy me Ice Cream/Toys/Whatever I want"?
Do I just sit here and do nothing in hopes that the mood passes her, which could give her the feeling that Daddy doesn't care about her feelings and would rather just clean/watch TV/type on the computer than listen to her concerns?
SO FAR TODAY i have tried these: Gave in to her whims (got up at 6am to watch Peter Pan and let her drink Fruit Punch in the living room for breakfast), Obeyed her wishes (she told me to go away, i said Okay and went to stand outside for 10 minutes) and tried just hugging her while telling her that i wasn't going to go away because I love her even if she doesn't love me (which was met with more 'Go Away"s and "I don't like you"s and "I like Mommy"s).
Not even 9am and I'm frazzled beyond belief :(
Adding to the frustration of the day, this is Day 3 of Molly having this stupid cold and this morning I have woken up with the same nose-clogging, throat-ripping illness as she. I'm sure this cold is partially to blame for all the emotion and drama... probably even ENTIRELY responsible... but it's not making it any easier to deal with.
Just because you know where the knife is coming from doesn't make the cut sting any less :(
Culminated in yesterday's "I want to KILL him" comments.
...And is continuing today with a morning full of her pushing me away and telling me she doesn't like me and she wants me to just go away. She doesn't like me, she likes MOMMY.
So what the hell do I do? I have a feeling that this is one of those early developmental moments that will define our relationship for the rest of her life.
Do I punish her for being rude and hurtful, making her hate me even more and setting myself as the villain/warden for the rest of her life that she has to fear and/or conspire against?
Do I over-compensate and do everything I can to make her say she loves me, setting the precedent of "All I have to do is tell Daddy that i hate him and he'll buy me Ice Cream/Toys/Whatever I want"?
Do I just sit here and do nothing in hopes that the mood passes her, which could give her the feeling that Daddy doesn't care about her feelings and would rather just clean/watch TV/type on the computer than listen to her concerns?
SO FAR TODAY i have tried these: Gave in to her whims (got up at 6am to watch Peter Pan and let her drink Fruit Punch in the living room for breakfast), Obeyed her wishes (she told me to go away, i said Okay and went to stand outside for 10 minutes) and tried just hugging her while telling her that i wasn't going to go away because I love her even if she doesn't love me (which was met with more 'Go Away"s and "I don't like you"s and "I like Mommy"s).
Not even 9am and I'm frazzled beyond belief :(
Adding to the frustration of the day, this is Day 3 of Molly having this stupid cold and this morning I have woken up with the same nose-clogging, throat-ripping illness as she. I'm sure this cold is partially to blame for all the emotion and drama... probably even ENTIRELY responsible... but it's not making it any easier to deal with.
Just because you know where the knife is coming from doesn't make the cut sting any less :(
