Decision time

[captain_slinky]

Nurture the loving relationship between me and my ailing Father (first time in my life that we're actually *bonding*),

Or...

Take a menial (but fairly good paying) temp-job for the next two months so I can start digging myself out of the worlds deepest debt-pit?

Please give me your opinion!

Comments

[dotgirl.livejournal.com]

Why don't you call your father, explain your dilemma, and see what he thinks?

[zannah.livejournal.com]

Quite honestly, I do not think you have to give up one for the other. From what I have read of you and your honey's situation, it is getting rather dire. I certainly understand the need for a *good* relationship between you and your father (especially if it's for the first time), however, I definitely think that money is not an issue that can be overlooked at this time, given what I had read about the situation.

I think you can do both, and certainly, I think your father would be understanding. Most parents *want* their kids to succeed, and I think if you made an effort, you could both maintain and better your relationship with your father *and* take this job and start getting yourself out of the money pit. Your parents would probably be proud to see you doing both. :) If I were a parent, I would feel *extremely* guilty if my son or daughter were digging themselves further into a money pit at my expense, though I might not say so to them. At the same time, I can see that your father is important to you, as shown in your concern regarding him in previous posts. I realise you want to further your relationship with him.

I don't think that he would begrudge you a chance to do something good for you, and I don't think you have to completely give up nurturing the relationship to take the job.

Does that make sense? Basically, I think you should definitely, definitely take the job. But that doesn't mean I think you should "abandon" your father. I just think you can do both. (It's been done! Honest!)

[collisions.livejournal.com]

Oh - or this. Call your dad, explain the dilemma and say you want to take the job and want his help on figuring out how you can maintain your closeness. I mean, if you tell him how much it means to him that you've grown closer in that way, I'm sure he'd be interested in, well, whatever - scheduling things to do with you on the weekends, say, or planning a trip together after the job is done. If you do take it, you can take it knowing that at time X, the job is done. This may reduce the feeling of drugery that working at a mindless job sometimes has.

And if, gods forbid, your father needs you to be there for him due to health problems in the next two months - if you want to spend time with him because you won't have that much more to spend - you can quit the damn job and go do it. I mean, it's temp work, and you don't owe anything to them.

Aaanyway, if all else fails, flip a coin and see how you feel about the outcome. Works for us all the time.

[khristle.livejournal.com]

I also think that talking to your parents before making the decision would be a good idea. But I also say that we should play it by ear based on how things go tomorrow. Until then try not to worry or think about it too hard sweetie. You've said it yourself, you and I have a way of always coming out ahead. Just give it time!

I love you Schmoopie :)

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[captain-slinky.livejournal.com]

Thank you, very good advice. The only problem is, though, that this job *isn't* a "success" in any way, shape, ort form. Matter of fact, it is a giant leap backwards into a field that I absolutely loathe working in, and both my parents know it (I've discussed my hatred of such jobs with them to some great extent). Right now, my father actually *needs* me. Not just on weekends, but to drive him to his doctors apointments here in Seattle on weekdays. I have trouble saying to myself "A temp job that I know I will hate is more important to me than being usefull to my own father"

So torn...

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[captain-slinky.livejournal.com]

The man drove *himself* to the emergency room twice rahter than wake anyone up to drive him there in the middle of the night. Of COURSE he's going to lie and tell me he doesn't need me around. I'd do the same thing!

But yeah... we'll probably take the job, then I'll have to just quit it on July 7th (the day of his next appointment at the VA Hospital)

[collisions.livejournal.com]

True...but you could tell him you've been enjoying spending time with him and want to keep doing stuff with him even after you take the job - on weekends or somesuch.

Aaanyway, I bet that once you're at the job and doing well and they've invested some amount of training or whatever into you, you could go to them and say, "Hey, my dad needs to be driven to the VA hospital, it's extremely important and I'm the only one who can do it, and I need a day off without pay." They'd probably go for that...I doubt you'd have to quit just to make the appointment.