Terrible

[captain_slinky]

Have you ever heard some terrible, horrible news about somebody who you used to be pretty close with, but then things ended badly between you and that person's been out of your life forever? A person from your past that was once a close friend but then some really bad things went down and you just kinda kicked them out of your life... and that person has just had the absolute worst thing imaginable happen to them?

Well now I have had that experience as well.

No idea how to feel about it. Spent a lot of time back in the day wishing ill upon this person for the things they did... but not like this. NEVER like this.

How do you deal with a situation like that?

Comments

[agelesseuridice.livejournal.com]

You realize that love and anger are so closely linked it's scary. Only those we truly love can make us angry enough to wish the unthinkable. And as much as awful as the hateful wish list is it is always, always tempered by the deep love we feel for that person.
The second, harder thing is to realize that as all powerful as we feel, as much as ego allows us to believe our thoughts have magical powers, they really don't. You can hurt someone with words and actions, but not with thoughts.
It's okay to feel guilty about what you thought you wanted to see happen to them. But your guilt isn't going to help this person one little bit. The real question here is what do you want to do for this person now? Is this the time to gather together all the fragments of love you hold and reach out to this person? Do you say a prayer? Or do you move on?
People come and go from our lives with startling regularity. It's really okay to let them leave on good or bad terms. It's really okay to let them come back into your life on good or bad terms. And it's really okay to say, "too much has happened, I can't go back, God Bless, and God Love." then walk away tears running down your face.

Karma!

[bghsmith.livejournal.com]

People like that, I have found, don't need your bad wishes. Nope, they take care of bringing bad things on themselves by their behavior.

If this person did something so bad to you that you just dropped them to get away? Something awful was bound to happen to them sooner or later.

[tfcocs.livejournal.com]

What happened, hon?

[captain-slinky.livejournal.com]

Personal stuff I can't share... generalized, a wife-beater's 2-year-old son died in his sleep :(